
FROM THE BOOK- SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE_ STEPHEN R. COVEY
What is the paradigm? In what ways it affects our life? We’ll discuss about it here.
Paradigm means assumption or frame of reference.In the more general sense, it’s the way we “see” the world in the terms of understanding or interpreting.
Let’s have an example to understand how it works. Take a few seconds and just look at the picture below-

Now look at the below picture and carefully describe what you see.

Do you see a woman? What’s her age? What does she look like? What is she wearing?
You probably would describe her (second picture) as a woman in her mid twenties – very lovely, rather fashionable with a petite nose and a demure presence. If you were a single man you might like to take her out.
But what if I were to tell you that you’re wrong? What if I said this picture is of a woman in her 60’s or 70’s who looks sad and has a huge nose. She is someone you probably would help her across the street. Would you believe that?
Ok, now carefully study the below picture and then look at the second picture again. Can you see the old woman now?

If you still can’t find out the old lady in second picture then compare the necklace of second picture with the mouth of third one.Gradually you will find her huge nose.
When we saw the first picture, We made a paradigm or frame of reference (actually, we were conditioned to do so). But when we saw the second one we did see her from the same frame of reference. But after seeing the third one, we gradually find the old lady in the second picture. This is called paradigm shift. This paradigm shift isn’t easy. When we look away and then back we’ll immediately see the image we have been conditioned to see in that few seconds of time.
It shows, first of all, how powerfully conditioning affects our perception, our paradigms. If few seconds can have that kind of impact on the way we see things, what about the conditioning of a lifetime? The influences in our lives- family, school, work environment, associates, and current social paradigms such as the personality ethic- all have made their silent unconscious impact on us and help shape our frame of reference, our paradigms, our maps.
It also shows that these paradigms are the source of our attitudes and behaviors. We can’t act with integrity outside of them. We simply can’t maintain wholeness if we talk and walk differently than we see. If you were among the 90 percent who typically see the young woman in the second picture when conditioned to do so, you undoubtedly found it difficult to help her cross the street. Both our attitude about her and our behavior toward her had to be congruent with the way we saw her.
And that’s the summary of this post- Each of us tends to think we see things as they are. But this is not the case. We see the world not as it is, but as we are- or,as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perceptions, our paradigms.
So that’s all about it. You can try this experiment with your friends. Firstly, show them the third picture, then the second one. I’m sure that they will find that there is a old lady in the second picture with immediate effect.
Hello guys, this is my first blog post. Do read it. I’m sure you’ll enjoy it. Would love to see feedback in comment section.
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It was pretty accurate, Brother, I like the word “Paradigm, I also like “Conditioning” which is the way of this world at present. We are conditioned from childhood to be good “Consumer’s” I would like to change that word “Consumer’s” to “Sharers”, that way everyone would find they had “Enough”. No child would have to go to bed Hungry…. In the old villages the Child, belonged to everyone, and if the mother could not feed it, another Mother would take over the job. This was a Blessing! This is the way our World could work for every-one……This is not a Complicated Process, it is easy, all we have to learn is how to treat all Men, Women, and Children as Equals!
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Thanks
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Nice one
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Beautifully explained 🙂
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Thank you ma’am. Your feedback will boost my confidence.
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Welcome!
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Loved your post. Shows how important our assumptions are in a very effective way.
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Thanks for reading my post. This is my first one. There are some grammatical error. I’m not so fluent in English.
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It is very clear and well-formulated. Will be looking forward to your future posts!
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Sure, I’m reading this book currently. I’ll post more like this one.
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This is a very well written article, you presented your point very well. Conditioning do effect!
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Yes, it affects. Thank you very much for your valuable feedback. I’m new in the world of blogging. Your feedback gives me a boost.
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Interesting stuff brother!
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Thank you
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Absolutely true! Strangely, the very first picture is of a young lady for me and both that follow are of an old lady. Maybe because I’m older. 😁 Thus, it is important to have empathy. Also, we must avoid judgement as we will never really know the real or true situations of others even when we can empathize.
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That’s good, that you didn’t go with your perception. As you said, with the age you have got experience of life. I’m sure your are going well in your life because you see things with fresh point of view. Thank you for your valuable feedback.
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Only a pleasure. And thank you! Age does make a difference. We have a bit more about life, although obviously, that’s just a generalization and depending on people’s circumstances, it’s also possible not to have accepted life lessons.
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WOW, this is an INCREDIBLE post, I’m surprised it’s your first one, you’ve done a great job!! 👏🏻
It has made me think a lot and I enjoyed reading it, I can’t wait to see what will come next 😊
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Thank you ma’am for your valuable feedback. I have just finished my college exams. So there will be a new post as soon as possible. Your feedback boost my confidence. Once again, THANKS.
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Beautiful dear Ram❤️
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Thanks Jyoti for giving your valuable feedback.
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My pleasure dear ❤️❤️
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Very well written and interesting too
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Thanks for your valuable feedback.
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Thanks for your valuable feedback.
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YOU hold great Promise, brother, do not give Up^, we will read and comment on your Posts!
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I’ll start writing soon. Thanks for your valuable feedback.
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